Love & Passion wedded to reason has some place in affairs of the heart.

Aloha! The below is a brief response to an acquaintance who is in love and considering a fiance visa to bring their love to the United States.

The fiance visa is no guarantee of smooth sailiing or long term success. However, my ex-wifes twin did it twice with her Australian fiance and it was a great thing for both of them. They still had thier problems/challenges. It will allow you both to evaluate each other in your indigenous environment. To evaluate yourself, your reactions to him in your world. Him to evaluate you, your relationsship, this country. All over time and not in the fresh love smashed haze of fresh love, untrammeld by time and tide (uh oh! here I go!).

I don't know you at all, nor your honey so maybe you have it all wired. You are young though and I advise so much caution in affairs of the heart. At the same time, would I have listened to my advice at the age I was when I was in love and had the boundless confidence that can come heart in heart wtih youthful passion? The confidence that can only come from untested faithful hearts, with endless faith that true love can overcome all?

I wax far too poetic. I offer you this - that one must follow thier passion and love. Yet somehow, in that volatile mix, let passionate reason be wedded with that most noble love that you bear with this man. Caution thrown to the wind is not caution, preservation of one's heart and soul must remain paramount, the guarding of the love you bear for each other is paramount.

So be cautiously in love but passionate. Temper one with the other but nurture both. It is making me sound so old, yet I am not and I remember like yesterday the invincibility. You sound wiser, more grounded, perhaps already wounded in love more than once or twice? I do not know.

So do call if you wish and I invite you too with all my heart. This love of yours, this greatest of journeys, this most perilous and lovely voyage of magnificence must be well thought out so as to be well lived. You are doing so, I commend you.

Though we know each other not a whit (and please forgive me my Shakespeare!) I wish you the best and hope for your happiness. You will find I am much more practical on the phone I think! But one must give voice to all shades and sides of the heart and here you have part of mine.

David